Blog Post

Verlief wees is maklik, maar die liefde...

Lynette Beer • Jun 24, 2019
Verlief wees is maklik, maar die liefde... Lynette Beer

Februarie is bekend as die maand van die liefde, met Valentynsdag so mooi in die middel. Dit is net rooi rose, en hartjies waar jy kyk. So ver van ware liefde verwyder soos Gauteng van die oseaan. Jy sien, om iemand regtig lief te hê vra soveel meer van elkeen van ons. Om enige verhouding te laat werk, moet mense leer om mekaar te verstaan.

Alle mense is van kleinsaf betrokke in verhoudings met ander. Deur die loop van ons lewens ontmoet ons baie mense met wie ons interaksie het. Ons is voortdurend besig om met ander te kommunikeer. ‘n Mens sou reken dat goeie verhoudings en kommunikasie maklik moet wees. Dis dan die een ding wat almal doen.

Toe nou nie. Waar mense is, is daar konflik, misverstande en gereelde aantygings van “niemand verstaan nie”, “jy luister nie” en “niemand waardeer my nie.” Selfs in die gelukkigste huisgesinne woed daar tienerstorms, die beste werksplekke het konflik, en jarelange vriende kan skielik ‘n uitval hê.

Hoekom? Ten eerste omdat mense verskil. Geen twee mense is dieselfde nie. Wat ‘n goeie ding is, anders sou die lewe baie eentonig gewees het. Tweedens omdat mense mekaar nie verstaan nie. Net omdat julle dieselfde moedertaal het, beteken dit nie julle praat dieselfde emosionele taal nie. Derdens, en hierdie is ‘n groot probleem vir baie van ons, is omdat mense hulself nie ken en verstaan nie.

Dit bring nog nie eers die verskille in kulture, opvoeding, geloof en spreektaal in berekening nie! Geen wonder daar heers party dae ‘n Babbelse verwarring in ons huise en die werksplek nie.

Gelukkig is daar altyd hoop. Ons kan leer om mekaar beter te verstaan. Gaan dink bietjie hierdie week oor die dinge dinge wat jou gewaardeerd en geliefd laat voel. Bespreek dit met jou ander helfte, beste vriendin of gesinslede. Jy sal dalk agtergkom dat jy meer van geskenkies gee en ontvang hou, maar jou beste vriendin voel gewaardeerd as jul elke week kuiertyd kan inwerk. Leer om ook die mense om jou se emosionele tale te praat, saam sal jul die positiewe impak op jul verhoudings sien.

Need more inspiration?

Get into the driver seat of your life, take control of your own happiness and stop placing limits on your potential.

We invite you to talk to us about a workshop that will best solve your personal and professional issues. Should you not be able to conduct a face-to-face workshop anytime soon, feel free to browse through our online store for one of our self-help books.

For more inspiration, visit Lynette's online shop to buy one of her many Inspirational Books!

ONLINE SHOP

Share with Friends

Exploring the Four Temperaments in the Bigger Picture

Exploring the Four Temperaments in the Bigger Picture

By Lynette Beer • 25 Apr, 2023
Understanding people is to understand the building blocks of relationships. Knowing the four temperament types gives us the keys to this understanding – enabling us to get insight into what motivates people to react in specific ways.
The Four Temperaments in the Health Care Industry

The Four Temperaments in the Health Care Industry

By Lynette Beer • 25 Apr, 2023
I have to date, not met any successful healthcare worker without a deep love for people. Empathy and caring for people's needs should form part of any nurse or doctor's make-up – unless they choose to spend time in laboratories or the admin side of the industry.
The Four Temperaments in the Classroom

The Four Temperaments in the Classroom

By Lynette Beer • 25 Apr, 2023
If there is one place knowledge of the temperaments could save one's bacon, it is in the classroom. Teachers who know the characteristics of the four temperaments would invest in their survival and peace of mind by applying this knowledge to the learning environment.
The Four Temperaments and Stress Management - Finding Balance

The Four Temperaments and Stress Management

By Lynette Beer • 25 Apr, 2023
Stress management is not a nice-to-have skill. If anything, dealing with stress could be a lifesaver. For many corporate positions, it has become a prerequisite for employment.
The Impact of Temperament on Communication

The Impact of Temperament on Communication

By Lynette Beer • 18 Apr, 2023
Communicating is a vital life skill that does not come naturally to all. When it comes to talking, the Red and Yellow temperaments have no problem at all – to the contrary, they are talkers par excellence. As the storyteller and performer, Yellow could make an impromptu speech with little or no warning, while Red could persuade a large group to follow his course or buy into his concept. But listening – the other crucial ingredient of communication - is a skill both Red and Yellow must practise.
The Four Temperaments and Leadership: How to Effectively Lead a Team

The Four Temperaments and Leadership

By Lynette Beer • 18 Apr, 2023
Although the two extrovert types, Raving Red and Yappy Yellow, are traditionally the apparent leaders, all temperaments can lead a team. It is a misconception that introverts do not make good leaders.
Navigating Romantic Relationships with Different Temperaments

Navigating Romantic Relationships with Different Temperaments

By Lynette Beer • 01 Mar, 2023
Although opposites often attract, there is no scientific proof that this is the norm. However, it is common to find an introvert marrying an extrovert or a people-oriented person finding a task-oriented Red or Blue attractive. This could be a subconscious step to compliment him- or herself or simply make sure that he or she does not have to perform a duty that does not come naturally or comfortably.
Exploring the Four Temperaments in Parenting

Exploring the Four Temperaments in Parenting

By Lynette Beer • 01 Mar, 2023
‘Know Thyself’ has never been as crucial as in the parenting role. Parents have often told me that the child they battle the most with is the one that resembles them – in character and temperament. Flaring up against young Jimmy because he shows signs of your own shortcomings is human – but not fair.
The Groovy Green Temperament and Decision Making

The Groovy Green Temperament and Decision Making

By Lynette Beer • 01 Mar, 2023
Groovy Green hates making decisions – it comes with the temperament… He or she is a master procrastinator and good at passing on the decision-making buck. Feeling unworthy and not ‘good enough’, clever enough or competent enough to make any decision, is almost a natural reaction for our Green brothers and sisters.
Show More
Share by: